St. Francis de Sales
“The measure of love is to love without measure.”
The latest horrors in the news made me stop and think about forgiveness.
People argue: Should unrepentant murderers be forgiven? Is that even possible?
I honestly don’t know if absolute forgiveness is possible for all of us. But the question reveals something deeper to me: how little most people actually know about Christianity.
Because the truth is this; Christianity is not a puddle. It is an ocean.
The Shallows

Before I converted, I thought I knew Jesus. I thought I knew Christianity. But looking back, I was only splashing in a puddle beside the ocean. I had the childish basics: “Be kind. Forgive. Love everyone. Be compassionate.”
But that’s not the fullness of Christianity by a longshot. That’s basic morality- the same lessons any parent might teach a toddler. It has depth, but only ankle-deep.
I have noticed that many cradle Catholics seem to live in this shallow place permanently, never going beyond their first lessons. They know about Mass, but not why it matters. They know they should pray, but they rarely do. They may even be devout in appearance but never venture beyond the shore. They believe that their catechesis, their Christian education and formation ended in childhood.
The Depths
Little by little I have begun to wade deeper.
Real catechesis and deep formation to Christ is like being swept out to sea…overwhelming at first, even frightening. The Jesus I discovered as I studied and prayed -more and more – was not the Jesus I had imagined as a spiritual infant. In fact, Christianity is infinitely richer, truer, more beautiful than I ever dreamed. It is a course of study on par with earning multiple PhDs over a lifetime, yet with one difference: it is Divine.
I am still at the high school level, if that – I have so much to learn. It is deeply humbling.

But the deeper I go, the more it transforms me. Virtues are no longer nice ideas but are like muscles that must be strengthened. Forgiveness, for example, is no longer me just saying “I forgive you.” As I grow in the virtue of forgiveness, I can feel myself stretching my childish understanding of it into what hopefully may someday become saintly forgiveness, where my soul learns to forgive as God forgives, as Jesus forgave on the cross. As Jesus forgives me every day.
This doesn’t happen by accident. It happens through grace, discipline, prayer, and daily practice. My formation to the Divine Logos may extend after my life here is over, in the purification of Purgatory – before I am purified enough to receive the Beatific Vision. I will be grateful for this should it be in my soul’s journey to meet God face to face!
Why Most Christians Stay Shallow
This age worships ease and comfort, and we blindly project this love of convenience onto our faith. Many Christians cling to the “once saved, always saved” idea of salvation -a spiritual shortcut that feeds sloth and makes prayer, regular repentance, confession, discipline and receiving the sacraments seem unnecessary.

Even many Catholics nowadays live as though comfort is the highest good. They skip confession for years. They go to Sunday Mass or Easter Mass- out of habit or tradition but rarely pay much attention to God, never try to deepen their prayer life or read the Bible, and never make an actual effort to train their souls in virtue.
This is why modern Christians look at forgiveness and virtue as impossible ideals instead of living realities. They never left the shallows.
How to Go Deeper (Even in the Novus Ordo)
Matthew 7:24–25
“Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house upon the rock… and it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.”
Some Catholics despair, thinking the loss of the Latin Mass or the spirit of Vatican II has left us stranded. But that’s not true. You can be a traditional, devout Catholic even in the Novus Ordo, if you take the call seriously.
- Go to daily Mass whenever possible.
- Pray unceasingly. THIS IS KEY. Pray the rosary daily. Learn mental prayer to pray like the saints. Set a daily rhythm of prayer that cannot be broken.
- Read Scripture as living Word, not as occasional inspiration. Let the Scriptures speak to your heart.
- Go to confession regularly and receive the Eucharist as often as possible. Purification of your soul is not optional.
- Fast and forsake worldly attachments. Sacrifice is part of being Christian. Carrying your cross is part of being like Jesus!
- Live as though your vocation is to become a saint – because it is.
This is the saint’s journey. It is hard. It is not convenient. But it is the only way to move from puddle-splashing to swimming in the depths.
Hebrews 5:14
“But solid food is for the mature, for those who have their faculties trained by practice to distinguish good from evil.”

The Ocean Awaits
When I look back at what I once thought Christianity was, I almost laugh. I thought I was in the ocean, but I was playing in a muddy puddle. And that is where way too many modern Christians still remain, arguing about things they don’t even understand, like children arguing physics with a PhD in physics.
But if we dare to dive deeper, if we who love God with all our hearts take up discipline, prayer, and the pursuit of virtue, we will discover that Christianity is not shallow at all. It is endless, infinite, and alive.
It is the ocean of God Himself.
Dive in, my friend, and see! “The water is fine.”
Grace








