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LARPing as Men: Why modern women feel exhausted, and how to return to our true feminine strength

Mrs Armstrong

There’s a strange trick that modern culture has played on us as women.
In the name of “empowerment,” we’re told to prove ourselves in masculine arenas; in competition, in the workforce, in the constant hustle, in the ring of performance and production. 

We may not even call ourselves feminists, yet the culture has trained us to be in a feminist mindset as our default: so much  in our masculine energy that we feel anxious when we are in our feminine – a nagging feeling that we must strive to keep up with, or even outdo men. 

How sad is this?

The truth many of us don’t want to admit ourselves? Most women’s nervous systems simply weren’t designed and are not capable of thriving and being healthy in that constant, masculine fight mindset. Hunter mindset. WARRIOR mindset.This doesn’t feel natural to most women, on any level – emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. It doesn’t feel good.

LARPING AS MEN DRAINS MOST WOMEN, AND DRAINED WOMEN ARE MISERABLE WOMEN!

Think back to childhood. Most boys wrestled every chance they got. Girls gravitated toward dolls, soft blankets, stuffed animals, imaginary families and relationships. Even when some of us joined in the roughhousing, it wasn’t usually our deepest joy – we loved nurturing, creating beauty, and being close to the people we loved. Some girls liked to fight boys, but it was from a competitive and masculine space that we did so. A need to feel “equal.”

How sad is this?

And yet, as adults, we’ve been told that true womanhood means competing like men, hustling and fighting like men, climbing ladders like men. We’ve been tricked into believing that to be pro-woman means to reject the very essence of our softness, our receptivity, our tender strength.

But living in that space long-term leaves many of us anxious, bitter, hardened, and weary. Because the truth is: we were made to be soft and gushy creatures. To bring warmth and love into the spaces we touch. To nurture our families, to care for our communities, to fill the world with beauty, gentleness, and soul. That is not weakness. That is power of a completely different kind — the kind the world desperately needs. beauty, gentleness, and soul. That is not weakness. That is power of a completely different kind –  the kind this world SO desperately needs in this time. 

When we step back into that energy, we often realize that the masculine arenas don’t actually feel comfortable or positive for us. They’re not “bad,” they’re just not ours. 

And that’s okay.

The work is not about judging women who find themselves stuck in masculine performance mode-  it’s about compassionately asking: Does this actually make me happy? Does this feel like who I am?

I’ve been there. I’ve felt the pull to “prove myself,” to try to live like a man and reject my soft and feminine nature because I thought it was weakness. But the more I soften, the more I allow myself to embrace my God-given femininity, the more alive and joyful I feel.

So what can we do to step back into feminine energy?

  • Rest without guilt. Your worth isn’t measured by output. Let your nervous system exhale.
  • Create beauty. Cook, decorate, garden, craft, sing — whatever awakens your soft creative joy.
  • Nurture. Care for children, pets, friends, or even plants. Pour love into something that thrives under your touch.
  • Receive. Let yourself be cared for, supported, and cherished by men instead of competing with them.
  • Sisterhood. Connect with other women who want to live in gentleness and authenticity. Build each other up.
  • Pray and re-align. Ask God to restore your feminine heart and give you peace in the role He designed for you.

We don’t need to prove ourselves by living like men. We don’t need to LARP as something we’re not. We need only to return to what we already are: beloved, radiant, tender, life-giving women.

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Can the Age of the He-Woman Stop Already?

Mrs Armstrong

Feminism told us we women would be “equal” if we were like men.
Equal in the workplace. Equal in ambition. Equal in providing.

So now women are expected to pour out just as much masculine energy as men (gotta be equal, right?) And still come home to cook, clean, mother and be the perfect little wifey with femininity and grace.

But here’s the twist no one wants to admit:
Masculine energy doesn’t submit to masculine energy. But most men want their women to bring home the bacon (masculine provider energy required) yet still be soft and submissive. This Is rarely possible and actually leads women to resent their man for expecting that. It doesn’t feel right.

So what happens in a marriage when no one yields? Head-butting!

We’re told men and women are interchangeable but clearly God didn’t design us that way. Sure, some men adapt better than others. They lean more feminine. They can take a back seat and yield equally to their woman. They do their equal part in maintaining the home, or at least try. They don’t demand their working wives larp as stay at home wives at home. As they shouldn’t!

Others – MOST- still want a sweet, nurturing wife who does most of the home stuff but wants a paycheck from her too.

But how can she be both mother and man? It doesn’t FEEL right to most men when their woman has a lot of masculine energy. She gives off controlling mother vibes to them. Because mothers use masculine energy when they discipline and teach their kids. So men grow unattracted to women who give off macho mother vibes.

Most women cant be really gentle and sweet -and focused on and driven to succeed in the world at the same time. How can she be both submissive at home and stressed over money and career at work? It’s ILLOGICAL. Very few women can do this.

And we wonder why the birth rate is plummeting.
We’ve sterilized not just our bodies but our souls.

This is not empowerment. It’s exhaustion. Hopefully the Age of the He-Woman is soon behind us.